But I had barely begun, when my husband called saying he was enroute to the hospital to meet the ambulance that was bringing his mother in. After years of steadily declining health, it looks like she's losing her battle with liver disease. (Isn't it odd how it can only take one phone call to instantly change all your plans and priorities?)
My mother-in-law & I have never been close. Through the last 30+years, our relationship has mostly revolved around the fact that we both love the same person... her son, my husband. But families come in all shapes, sizes and styles, and even though we can't always rely on our families to provide us with the relationships and feelings that we think need, it doesn't make us any less a family, does it? So for me, the hardest part is to having to watch this family deal with the raw emotion of these final days. It's difficult to see my "never-let-your-guard-down" husband struggle to maintain the control he thinks he needs to maintain, in the face of this impossible-to-control situation. But one way or another, we'll all get through this. And because family needs trump those of virtually everything else, I'm going to be scarce for a while, taking the time to do whatever is asked of me in the coming days. We'll pick up where we left off soon enough, on this new design, our new studio and everything else that might come along.
My mother-in-law & I have never been close. Through the last 30+years, our relationship has mostly revolved around the fact that we both love the same person... her son, my husband. But families come in all shapes, sizes and styles, and even though we can't always rely on our families to provide us with the relationships and feelings that we think need, it doesn't make us any less a family, does it? So for me, the hardest part is to having to watch this family deal with the raw emotion of these final days. It's difficult to see my "never-let-your-guard-down" husband struggle to maintain the control he thinks he needs to maintain, in the face of this impossible-to-control situation. But one way or another, we'll all get through this. And because family needs trump those of virtually everything else, I'm going to be scarce for a while, taking the time to do whatever is asked of me in the coming days. We'll pick up where we left off soon enough, on this new design, our new studio and everything else that might come along.
God bless you and your family as you journey through this season. May He give you grace an peace! Your fans will still be here when you return. :)
ReplyDeletewill be thinking of you and your family at this time! Take care.
ReplyDeleteHave recently been "here" I lost my Dad in Sept. It's never easy but somehow we all manage to get through times like these and then life does move forward once again. Take care, I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteSending gentle hugs and loving thoughts your way.
ReplyDeleteI feel so blessed, my mother-in-law was closer to me then my own mother.She has been with the Lord now going on 5 years. So you are right, families come in all shapes, sizes and different styles.
ReplyDeleteIn September I lost my MIL as well. She, after an almost year long battle of trying to recover from a serious accident. It is difficult on the family of the Mother as well as the people who love them. My thoughts and prayers are with you, always. God Bless.
ReplyDeleteSending comforting thoughts your way.
ReplyDeleteNot having had a MIL(she died before I met my DH) never seemed difficult but beig a MIL is quite different. My DIL's father killed himself in May and that was difficult. My son is a minister and today his ex secretary's husband did the same thing and it all came back fresh to DIL and grandson and my son also. Will be thinking of you and praying for you in the days to come. Just be there for them without intruding. In Him, Nancy Minshew
ReplyDeleteKat -- Do what your heart says to do. Designs and purses will keep. These moments won't. Sending thoughts of strength and calm your way. We'll be here when you're ready.
ReplyDeleteAnna in Albuquerque
sending any comfort to you and your husband.
ReplyDeleteTake good care of your family.
take care, you all are in my thoughts and prayers
ReplyDeleteMy prayers and understanding are with you at this time. I am going through many of the same family things, only it is my brother, whose time is near. It is difficult at anytime, but as we near the holidays, it is even harder.
ReplyDeleteBeckie in Brentwood, TN
I'll keep you in my prayers, for you and family. As we are ALL FAMILY in some sense or another.
ReplyDeleteMy family traveled the same path in August. I, too, was not close to my MIL. My prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteKathy, prayers for you and your family. We here in blogland understand. Don't forget to take care of yourself too. {{{Hugs}}}
ReplyDeleteThanks to all of you! It sometimes floors me how cohesive the sewing community is! I appreciate the support and I will keep you posted as I can!
ReplyDeleteI understand about how quickly priorities can change. We've been through a family crisis recently when my husband had an accident and had to have his right leg amputated. Suddenly lots of things just aren't as important as they used to be, and we see more clearly the things that really do matter. Sending good thoughts and prayers to you and your husband and MIL during this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone, as many of us have been in the same place this year, as you are treading right now. Our prayers go out to your family at this time.
ReplyDeleteI was also blessed to have a wonderful m-i-l more like another mother. I also have relationships where, we were related because we shared a loved one. MY prayers go out for you, for your husband, and the rest of your family. God be with you and bless you with peace at this hard time!
ReplyDeleteSending you the best wishes possible during this trying time. I will keep you ALL in my prayers. May the Lords love and Grace surrond you during this trying time. We will all be here when you are able to come back. God Bless you and yours, Alice in GA
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